The Dark Side of Internet Dating

Posted on March 10, 2010 by Sean

In the intense world of the internet there are many good things that go on, internet dating being one of them to a certain extent. Internet dating not only allows you to connect to millions of people across the globe; it allows you to find the perfect person to spend your life with. But with great pros comes great cons.

After reading this section you will know all the things that are bad in the industry of internet dating! Also, what can happen if you get caught up in a bad site.

Cons

When you log onto the internet you do not have a face but rather a series of numbers, you may not care much about that but online predators use it to there advantage. You will log onto an internet dating site and be talking to an excellent person, you think. Then it winds up being a pedophile or sexual predator out for you! They can post a fake picture and make up an extremely intertwined biography about there life and be making it all up to get a step closer to you. This isn’t always true with all internet dating sites though. Before you join one make sure to do all the research you can on the specific site.

Identity theft

This is yet another con that internet dating sites may have. Members that register for sites may have to put in their credit card number and think nothing of it because it is for the monthly payments, but that information can be hacked and used to purchase items under the aforementioned users name and or commit cyber crime. Cyber crime can be anything from vandalizing sites to completely destroying them with viruses!

Consequences of a bad site

When you join a shady website that you haven’t heard much about but seems really good to you through a computer screen could be the downfall of your credit or identity! These sites usually have many fraud issues like not giving you the features they promise and just keep the money you paid in extra for them. These sites may also have fake members that will get to know you and get you to pay them to come visit you, but they will keep the money and you will never see them.

Before joining an internet dating site I suggest that you do a lot of research on any problems that have happened on them, the benefits, and if the site is trustworthy!

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The 8 Qualities Women Find Attractive In Men

Posted on November 22, 2008 by Sean

When asked, women will say they want a nice guy who

treats them like a princess, does everything they want
him to and pretty much has no balls of his own. They
like the idea of getting flowers and having a sensitive
guy to talk to about their problems.

 

All women will tell you they want to date the nice guy

or that they can never seem to find a nice guy to date.

 

The problem is, this isn’t exactly true. These women

aren’t lying when they say they want these things….

on the surface they do, because it makes sense. It

makes sense to want a guy like this. But on a subconscious

level, they really want a man who takes control and acts

like a man should.

 

So what qualities do women want in men?

 

They want what they’ve always wanted and always will want: 

women want their men to be men and not wimpy boys who ask

for approval to scratch their noses.

 

I know this sounds harsh, but it’s true.

 

Have you ever noticed the following?

 

When you give a girl a compliment, or tell a girl how

beautiful she is, she shys away from you?

 

BUT

 

When you notice a flaw about her she will get more

involved in the conversation and take you more seriously.

 

Have you ever noticed when you buy girls gifts and
take them to expensive dinners they end up later
that night thanking you for a great evening and going
out with another guy?

 

BUT

 

If you just go for a quick drink and act like you are

equals, she feels attracted to you because you’re not

catering to her every whim.

 

Have you noticed when you call a girl – often after a date -
and she seems distant and funny

 

BUT

 

When you don’t call her and you act like you’re busy and

could live with her or without her, she won’t stop calling you.

 

WOMEN DON’T WANT TO BE CATERED TO, HOUNDED, TREATED

LIKE PRINCESSES OR ANY OTHER RUBBISH YOUR MOTHER TOLD

YOU ABOUT DATING.

 

This is from my experience what women want from a man…..

 

  1. They Want You To Be Confident

 

  1. They Want You To Lead

 

  1. They Don’t Want You To Get Emotional

 

  1. They Want You To Be Fun With No Hang Ups

 

  1. They Want You To Make Them Laugh

 

  1. They Want You To Make Them Wonder

 

  1. They Want You To Be Interesting

 

  1. They Want You To Know What You Want From Life

 

If you want to succeed with dating you need to learn how to do those things now.

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How To Master Your Shyness Around Women

Posted on November 19, 2008 by Sean

It has been accepted that men should usually be the ones to do the asking out for years now. Although some women break convention today, the majority of nice guys are no doubt daunted by the idea of approaching a woman they like let alone asking her out! If you are shy it is even worse.

 

However, you have to seize the day if you are to get what you want. Sitting and waiting for her to do the same thing for you then you may be waiting quite some time. Women do not want to embarrass themselves by jumping the gun so it is all down to the nice guys to do the asking. Not even a fear of rejection should stop you. Just imagine yourself 20 years down the road with the TV and a few cold beers for company on a Saturday night instead of the girl of your dreams if you want an incentive!

 

If you are shy then it is usually because you do have an abject fear of rejection. Even talking to a woman can make you weak at the knees out of fear. However, you are not on your own. Many nice guys are the same, but there are so many women out there that you are bound to find the perfect lady for you. Even if you are rejected a few times, it really does not matter because if you keep trying then you will find her eventually.

 

The first thing nice guys have to do is get over their shyness before even asking a girl out. Projecting an air of confidence will increase your chances of success no end. It will also give you better life skills that will help you to go far and get exactly what you want. You do have to be happy with who you are though in order to get over shyness and you do have to feel comfortable in your own skin and the only way to do that is through practice.

 

All shy nice guys should try the following when trying to overcome a hesitancy and lack of confidence:

 

·        Come to terms with the fact that you will face rejection in life and also that it is not the end of the world. Life goes on.

·        As corny as it sounds, try practicing asking a woman out in the mirror. You might want to check that you are on your own in the house first though! Try asking the question in different ways, and you will be surprised at just how much confidence this can give you!

·        If you are rejected the first time you ask a woman out then take it at face value. If she says that she is busy then assume she is and use it as a launch pad. Maybe you could tell her that your offer still stands if she has a night free. Do not immediately ask her out for another night because you will look a little desperate and this will put her off. Instead, leave the ball in her court or ask again a few weeks later.

 

It is important for nice guys to overcome their shyness in order to get a date. You may get rejected but you may not so just roll with it. Do not take it personally but just find the woman that you really are looking for instead. It is all a learning process.

 

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Conquer Rejection with the Secrets Of Online Dating

Posted on October 16, 2008 by Sean

 

Are you sick of being told “I just want to be friends” or “you’re a really nice guy but it’s just not the right time in my life for a relationship” and about 99 other excuses you’ve heard over and over again?

 

I don’t blame you. Sometimes it seems like a mystery when trying to find out what make some men successful with women when you are not – especially when you think you are doing everything right, just like you’ve been told or just like you read in the books.

 

But the good news is that there is now an easier route to dating success

 

Internet dating has made meeting beautiful women so much easier, hence why I’ve been using it for the last 2 years with great success.

 

There are many different ways to meet women and each has its own advantages. Ways such as :

 

*Personal ads

*Speed dating

*Through friends or colleagues

*Singles events

*Offline dating agencies

*In bars and nightclubs

*Taking evening courses

 

BUT…

 

Internet dating is king and here is why:

 

*It’s cheap

*It’s quick

*It’s fun

*It’s simple to use

*There are thousands of women in almost every area now online

*They know you don’t just want to be friends but that you are actively looking for a date and ultimately a partner.

*And the biggest reason of all is that it’s a great place to learn without the fear of face to face rejection

 

It’s a fact of life that rejection is all part of the dating process, and even the most successful guys who date lots of different girls get rejected far more often than they ever get lucky.

 

In fact with online dating you can see how random the process really is and why you should not take rejection too personally.  

 

Just like most things in life, dating is a simple numbers game. And even though the numbers may appear to be stacked against you they can still be turned in your favour. The more we can move them in your favour, the more successful with the type of women you want to date you will be.

  

Dating has never been as quick and easy as it is nowadays. On the internet you can simply put up a profile, play around with it until it sounds the way you want it and then off you go. A good way to look at it is like it’s your own 24/7 automated dating machine that’s attracting women for you around the clock! How cool is that?

 

 

And you don’t have to be attractive, rich or extra special in any way. In fact, the guys I know who are most successful with women don’t have a lot of money and are usually just average looking

guys, unremarkable at first sight.

 

The difference is they know what women want, they know how to behave around women and they act in ways women find attractive.

 
And the good news is that this is all stuff that can be learned.

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What Do Women Really Want?

Posted on August 18, 2008 by Sean

The age old question that has baffled men for centuries still has no definitive answer that could help men everywhere, and nice guys in particular.

 

The truth is that there is no definitive answer because different women want different things. Looks do not really matter to the majority of women because they often look for other things in a man.

 

Bad boys do appeal to women because they appear to be a little dangerous. They are often good looking as well, but the effect of the bad boy does not last long. In fact, it often becomes tiresome. It is intelligence and sensitivity that seem to make the best impression on women and so go to prove that personality does actually count for something after all! 

 

The majority of women do want a nice guy that they can talk to, laugh at and with and generally spend a lot of time with in the coming years. It is essential to have a good sense of humor as well as a sparkling personality. However, some women will not like your sense of humor at all. As with anything else, certain jokes and thoughts are an acquired taste. If you are confused now then keep reading because it gets worse!

 

It is important to talk about looks when it comes to dating because it could be your looks that initially attracts a woman. If you have an air of confidence then this will also make an impact. However, those two things will only get you so far. It is important to look your best and feel comfortable in your own skin so ensure that you are wearing clothes you feel comfortable in and have reasonably well-groomed hair.

 

A little aftershave is good too, as are clean teeth. In fact, the latter is a must! However, you should not get too anxious about your looks. If a woman disregards you on the strength of them then she is not worth the hassle anyway. As long as you are comfortable that is all that matters.

 

The one thing that should be stressed about looks for a nice guy is that you should always smile, and make sure that it is a comfortable one rather than a forced one. This will look attractive, but a forced smile will look creepy and give you an air of a crazed murderer rather than a happy go lucky guy!

 

In summary, women want the following qualities in a nice guy if they are going to make a date and keep it:

 

·        An air of confidence

·        A nice smile that is comfortable and not forced

·        Intelligence and wit. You do not have to be an academic but you do have to have common sense and the ability to listen.

·        Attentiveness (paying her the attention she deserves)

·        Respect for her, yourself and the other people around you

·        A fun sense of humor that matches hers

·        The ability to take on responsibility and offer stability

·        Similar values, interests and hobbies

 

If you are a nice guy then it stands to reason that you will have most of the above anyway. These qualities will stand you in good stead and make your love life a lot brighter in the future.

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